This morning I was doing some research on PCOS and depression and came across an interesting statistic. According to a published medical study, suicide attempts are 7 times higher in women with PCOS than women without. As someone who once attempted suicide at the age of 18, I am not at all surprised by the statistic. Is anyone, really?
As with so much of this syndrome, there hasn’t been a great deal of research done on the association of PCOS with depression. The medical community appears to agree on the fact that depression is in fact a symptom in many women with PCOS but they can’t seem to agree on whether or not the depression is physiologic or psychological. Or perhaps both. Is there an actual imbalance going on inside the body that is causing the depression? Or are women merely depressed because of the symptoms of PCOS that are reeking havoc on the female psyche? Personally, I believe it’s a combination of both.
For one thing, when PCOS is at it’s worst your body is completely and totally out of alignment. Your hormones and insulin and everything else is out of whack. So, it seems only logical that there would be some sort chemical/biological imbalance that was going on inside. According to one of the studies:
“Hypothalamic, pituitary, and other end-organ system dysregulation occurs in both PCOS and affective disorders, which share clinical and biochemical markers including insulin resistance, obesity, and hyperandrogenism.”
So, we’ve got the imbalance going on within our bodies that’s making you feel depressed, and now we have all the shitty ass symptoms from the imbalance that’s going on outside the body. According to the same study:
“Hirsutism, acne, obesity, hormonal disturbances, fear of infertility, and psychological distress—may damage their self-esteem and female identity.”
The research study concludes its assessment by stating:
“Previous studies have found that PCOS is associated with decreased quality of life and self-rated mental symptoms. This study demonstrates that PCOS is also linked to psychiatric syndromes as verified by structured clinical assessments. The clinical implication of this study is that clinicians treating women with PCOS should be aware that these women are a high risk group for common affective and anxiety disorders as well as suicide attempts.”
I’ve seen a lot people use the term, “decreased quality of life, “ when discussing PCOS. I’m always so disheartened by that . It just makes me so sad. It makes me sad because I think that PCOS, unlike many conditions/diseases is not an automatic death sentence. It’s not like Parkinson’s or MS that can and will only get worse over time. PCOS is something that can ultimately be dealt with. You can get better in many respects and go on to live a perfectly normal life. But I feel so much of dealing with PCOS is contending with the sort of mental prison that many of us can inflict on ourselves. We feel so different and inadequate that it’s inevitable that one would experience a decrease in their quality of life.
I think about being a teenager. About dealing with this condition that I kept secret from every single person in my life out of embarrassment and shame. At the time, I was clearly depressed. For years I existed in this debilitating darkness that I kept hidden deep inside of me. But if you had asked me if I was depressed, I probably would have said no. I wasn’t depressed at all. I just had this one thing that made it really hard for me to be happy. And I’m sure people would have believed me if they asked since I was really great at pretending. What I presented to the world was the opposite of my reality. The opposite of what I was really feeling.
For years, I resided in two worlds. In one world, I was the Stephanie that was silly and cracked bad jokes and tried to get people to laugh, and I was responsible, hard working and studious. But then there was the other world. The other Stephanie. The world was oblivious to this version of me. I made sure of that. There was no light in this world. Only pain. Only darkness. I was physically and emotionally drowning. There was no hope of any kind in this world. I wanted to disappear. I wanted to die.
I’m honestly not sure how I ever made it out. How I managed to escape that world. But I did. I thank God every single day that I did.
I think that’s part of the reason why I’ve continued to keep all of this stuff buried inside. Why, all these years later, I still haven’t really talked about what I’ve gone through with the people in my life. There’s a small part of me that worries about drudging up the layers and layers of toxicity that I once swam in. I worry that bringing it back to the surface could do more damage than good. It’s as if I was once a raging alcoholic, but then after years of drinking I went to rehab and got better and stopped. And then one day I started up again and ended up binge drinking. And it had been so long since my last drink that the reintroduction of the alcohol back into my blood stream caused my body to go in shock and it stopped working. I guess that’s a bad and extreme example, but I still worry.
In hindsight, I realize how depressed I truly was. I can see how big of a role depression actually played in my life. And I think maybe it still does in some ways.
I’ve been giving some thought about possibly going into therapy. To try it out and see what if any good can come from it. A friend of mine told me about her therapist who described this invisible back-pack that we’re all wearing around on our backs and how we pack stuff down into it and we don’t even realize it. How we just walk around with this back-pack and let it weigh us down and let it prevent us from ever truly moving forward. I’ve been carrying my back-pack around for a really long time. I think it’s time I start unpacking some of that shit. It’s time I start freeing myself of the burdens I’ve been carrying around on my own. I’m ready.